For your question ,
I want to begin the answer by the quote "what you will get what you sow,you sow hatred,you will harvest hatred."
From the relationship between you and your father you have showed ,I know that your father did not take his responsibilities as a father seriously.Maybe in his heart ,there are some kind of love which should be given to you,but he never make you know the love is existent.
So when you said that you believe that what you will get what you sow,you sow hatred,you will harvest hatred ,you want to do nothing as a son to make your father feel no good for revenge.
If so ,I think it is wrong.
I want to tell you that the quote "what you will get what you sow,you sow hatred,you will harvest hatred." is also suitable for you.
if you want to enjoy the happiness about the family,you should do something first to change the situation.
if you sow ,you will get what you want.
Love your father ,do something to let him understand that you are his son,and he who the only kind of people is very important for you.
Try your best,to sow the love,and you will get the love you want.
If you sow the hatred,you will harvest hatred.
Why not change your world by yourself
I hope my words can help you,good night.