Love is the most complicated thing in this world,is the most unreasonable thing happen on a reasonable person.That's what love is,you simplify it ,you compromise it.There is no magic way that can give you happiness of love and in the same time deprived you out of suffering.That's what life is,you can not win them all.What can you do is compromise,give up.I think the other book by the author is more reasonable,How to simplify your life.In the last section "black forest",it tells people not to have an affair during their marriage,that's not as romantic as you think or see from some seedy films,it gives you a lot of pain and a long time shadow over your love life.Yes,I agree and I can imagine and we all know just like we know eating too much sweets is bad for our teeth,but if only I can pull out my sweet-tooth,and get a faked artificial teeth to keep alive and convincing myself that I am still a human.