Don't hesitate to say
In our daily life ,there are many occasions on which we should not hesitate to say "no"when asked for help.for one thing ,when we are not able to offer help ,we should give others a direct reply "no".for another ,when the thing we are asked fro is unreasonable or even illegal,we should also say "no"to the requirer.
However ,it is not the case in our real life .many people prefer to say "yes"when they should say "no".on the one hand ,they are afraid to lose their own face .since they think refusal means their inability .on the other hand,they are afraid to offend their acquaintances" face ,suck as their friends ,relatives and so on .
In fact ,there are disadvantages in doing so ,at fist ,they are not ableenough or willing enough to do the thing for others .therefore ,the thing can not be accomplished well .in the end they may lose both their acquaintances" belief and their own faces.
When someone makes a suggestion offers somthing or asks you to do somthing for them,we will say no if we don't want to do or we have no time to do.
But some people hesitate to say no .Because they think it's rude to refuse other's offers.They don't want to hurt others.In addition,they like to be needed and useful.They want someone cannot make it without them.
However,ther are some disadvantages.Fisrt,it will take up too much time.You will feel tired.Second ,you are not honest to your friends and your family.You don't tell them your real feeling.Third,you lose yourself because you always do things for others which you don't want to do.So sometimes you need to say no when someone asks you to do something for them.Notice say "thank you" before refuse the offer.