一 WHAT IS LOVE?
Love means that I care about the welfare of the person I love to the extent that it is genuine,my caring is not a smothering of the person or a possessive clinging.I’m concerned about his growth and I hope he will become all that he can become,and never put up roadblocks to what he does that enhances him as a person.
二 love Your Life
However mean your life is,meet it and live it,do not avoid it and call it hard names.It is not so
bad as you are.It looks poorest when you are richest.The faultfinder will find faults in paradise.
Love your life,poor as it is.You may perhaps have some pleasant,thrilling,glorious hours,even in a poorhouse.The setting sun is reflected from the windows of the poorhouse as brightly as from the rich man's house; the snow melts before its door as early in the spring.I do not see but a quiet mind may live as contentedly there,and have as cheering thoughts,as in a palace.The town's poor seem to me often to live the most independent lives of any.Maybe they are simply great enough to receive
without misgiving.
Cultivate poverty like a garden herb,like sage.Do not trouble yourself much to get new things,whether clothes or friends.Turn to the old,return to them.Things do not change;we change.Sell your clothes and keep your thoughts.
熱愛生活
不論你的生活如何卑賤,你都要面對它并經歷它,不要躲避它,更別用惡言咒罵它.它不像你那樣壞.你最富有的時候,它倒是看似最窮.愛找缺點的人就是到天堂里也能找到缺點.
愛你的生活,盡管它貧窮.甚至在一個救濟院里,你也可能有一些愉快、興奮、光榮的時候.反射在救濟院窗上的夕陽,跟富人家窗上的一樣光亮；在各自門前,積雪同在早春融化.我只看到,一個從容的心靈,在那里也像在皇宮中一樣,生活得心滿意足而富有讓人振奮的思想.城鎮(zhèn)中的窮人,我看,倒往往是過著最獨立不羈的生活.也許因為他們很偉大,所以受之無愧.
視貧窮如園中之花而像圣人一樣耕植它吧!不要麻煩自己過多地去找新的花樣,無論是新的衣服或新的朋友.懷舊點吧,回到過去吧.萬物不變,是我們在變.你的衣服可以賣掉,但要保留你的思想.
Love means having respect for the dignity of the person I love.See him as a separate person,with his own values and thoughts and feelings,and I don’t insist that he surrender his identity and conform to an image of what I expect him to be for me .I can allow and encourage him to stand alone and to be who he is,and I avoid treating him as an object or using him primarily to gratify my own needs.
In short,in love two beings become one and yet remain two