Learning to say NO
We've all been taught that we should help people.It is the right thing to do and will （可以去掉will）make us popular with others.It may even win us favors in return.However,we must be realistic.We can't say yes to every request.If we did,we would fail or go crazy for sure.Sometimes we simply don't have the （去掉the）time to help.In this case,we must know how to say no politely.
Saying NO can be very difficult.People with low self-esteem very often have a lack of assertiveness and think they have to meet the expectations of everyone.（不太理解這句話的意思.低自尊的人總是喜歡迎合別人?低自尊和迎合別人有什么關(guān)系呢?）It is very hard （通常很少搭配very hard.very difficult 是一個(gè)固定搭配.你可以說 it is hard to do) for them to set limits with others.(set limits with others是什么意思呢）They sometimes feel ashamed or （加上一個(gè)even 會(huì)更好）guilty if they would say NO.But to do things against your will and possibilities will end up in feeling used and resentful.（被利用了?可能你可以這樣說：However it is also difficult to against your will.)
A simple and direct "NO,I am not able to help you with that" is the best solution.If you want to (have to) give an explanation you should keep it simple:” NO,I have already made an another appointment for this time" or "NO,sorry.I am afraid I have to decline because I have no spare time."
If someone makes a request it is fair to ask for time to think it over.The decision should be up to you,but sometimes it is difficult to say NO right now.You can try to use an empathic NO,if you would have helped under different circumstances:
For example,if someone ask you to take care of his cat you may refuse like this
"Sorry,no.I would have kept your cat next weekend.But I will be off for visit.I know it will be hard to find someone to take care off (of) the cat.I will try to help you next time."
We must not feel guilty about saying no.Sometimes refusing others is the right thing to do.(To refuse others is reasonable.) It can save ourselves,and them,a lot of trouble.In short,we cannot please everyone all the time.Refusing favors is a part of life.
總的來說,不錯(cuò).就是分論點(diǎn)少了點(diǎn)兒.你的總論點(diǎn)是：We should learn to say NO.但是你的分論點(diǎn),我讀完了,好像就是在說如果不拒絕別人,就會(huì)浪費(fèi)我們很多時(shí)間和精力.如果可以,你可以寫成總-分-總.總：we should learn to say No.分：why we should learn to say NO.First of all,Every one's time and energy is limited.然后分述；Secondly,...; Finally,.All in all,...